Finding your place and belonging
Starting fresh can feel exciting… and terrifying. Here’s how to thrive when everything feels new.
Starting something new can feel exciting – but also a little scary. Whether you’re moving up a school year, joining a new class, starting college, or stepping into a new team, it’s normal to wonder:
Am I good enough?
Will I fit in?
Do I really belong here?
These questions can be tough, especially when you are already juggling change, expectations, and maybe even self-doubt. The truth is, most people feel like this when they begin something new – they just don’t always say it out loud.
Belonging isn’t about instantly feeling at home. It’s about gradually finding your place, building connections, and learning that you do have something valuable to bring.
Why belonging matters
When we feel like we belong, we are more confident, motivated, and open to opportunities. It gives us the security to take risks, make mistakes, and grow. Without it, we can shrink back, second-guess ourselves, or avoid challenges – which stops us from thriving.
Tips for thriving in new environments
1. Remember that everyone is adjusting
Even if others look confident, chances are they’re also nervous underneath. You’re not the only one finding your feet.
2. Focus on what you bring
Think about your strengths – kindness, humour, organisation, creativity, resilience. Belonging isn’t about being like everyone else; it’s about contributing what makes you unique.
3. Be open and curious
Ask questions, introduce yourself, show interest in others. Small conversations open the door to bigger friendships.
4. Create mini-goals
Instead of expecting to feel instantly at home, set small challenges: sit with someone new at lunch, speak up once in class, join a club. Little wins build confidence.
5. Be kind to yourself
It takes time to settle. Feeling uncertain doesn’t mean you don’t belong – it means you’re human. Treat yourself with patience and self-compassion.
6. Find your anchors
Keep hold of routines, hobbies, or friendships outside the new setting. Familiar things give you balance while you adjust.
A final thought
Belonging isn’t about being perfect or proving yourself – it’s about connection. It grows with time, through shared experiences, and by letting yourself be seen. If you’re starting something new, give yourself permission to be a beginner, to learn, and to take up space. You do belong.